If you have an elderly parent that won’t listen to you, there are some things you can do to better the situation. Before you do these things, you should know that not every parent is going to react the same. Some parents don’t like taking advice or orders from their children. You might be better hiring a home care provider to help take care of them. In the meantime, you can try some things to get them to listen.
Accepting What Is
You can tell your parent to do something, but you can’t make them. This is the same as it is what it is. The sooner you can remember this, the better things will be. Many children try to force things on their elderly parents and honestly that is just not going to work.
Important or Not
Think about the importance of a specific situation. Is it going to put your parent in danger if they don’t do something or if they do? If not, is it worth pushing the issue or is it something you can just let go.
Don’t Take it Personally
Your parent isn’t out to get you. When they have a negative behavior or they aren’t listening to you well, don’t take it personally. They are in their own reality and it isn’t anything against you. Sometimes it might be easier to hire a home care provider to help out, instead of trying to take care of everything all on your own.
Finding an Outlet for the Feelings You Are Having
When you are caring for an elderly parent, you can’t let your feelings always get in the way. If you do, you will probably end up arguing with your parent and that isn’t going to do anyone any good at all. If you find an outlet for the feelings you are having, you can have more factual conversations with your parent, rather than feelings-based. You can join a support group, for instance, to help manage your feelings.
Think and Plan Ahead
Two more things that you will want to do to get your elderly parent to listen to you is to think and plan ahead. The more you do this, the more prepared your parent can be and the less objective they are going to be to the things that are happening.
Try to Understand Them
The more you can understand what your parents are going through, the better they are going to listen to you. Let them know that you are there for them and you understand or are trying to understand what they are going through. This can go a long way in getting them to listen to you.
These are some of the tips for when your elderly parent won’t listen to you. Use them wisely and things will work out in the end.
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